Thursday, June 20, 2013

Day 377 - The paranoia of respect part4

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In this post I continue with self-forgiveness statements - to get a situational perspective please read day 374.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to use respect to establish myself in inferiority or superiority “against” my fellow humans, and in this manner keep the entire hierarchy on which society is build going because I realise that we build a society not on the large bodies such as government but on the little ways in how we interact with each other, the social behaviour which then creates the causality for all else, including the forming of large bodies such as government and the financial system.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed to use age, status and degrees as signifier for respect, whether I can demand respect or must be paying respect to someone I am interacting with because I realise that this is in actuality a way to divert ourselves from the one point that needs to be respected in every situation and in every interaction which is the applied common sense of what is best for all participants.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not have realised that when I answer a children’s genuine questions about the world I am not self-honest because either I cover up the non-sensical aspects with my answer or I safeguard my denial through emotional reactions.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to find myself in situations where I am observing two people interacting and with one of the two people I am personally close to, and if that person does not adhere to the social rules because s/he is not aware of them, I am inclined to make s/he aware of the proper conduct because I want to avoid that her/his interaction partner is getting angry - and within that I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that that I must step in and control the situation because I believe that it’s of benefit to the person who does not know the proper social rule.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to judge others who do not behave according to the social rules, in how they respect others, instead of looking at my own conduct and how I apply the respect in my life.


I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to worry about whether I know what to do in a social situation in regards to respecting the rules with my conduct, and become insecure which leads me to make decisions that compensate for my insecurity instead of approaching the situation in common sense and stopping all reactions.
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Sunday, June 16, 2013

Day 376 - The paranoia of respect part3

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In my last post on the paranoia of respect I explained how the parent-child relationship is formed on the basis of teaching a child respect and how this in turn validates the parents' beliefs and opinions. I further detailed how the child grows up and carries on creating relationships with other individuals on the basis of respect, or more precisely on prioritising who the now-adult has to pays respect to and from whom she can demand it.


This starts the game of superiority and inferiority where we use either dynamic to relate to others in how we communicate. The thoughts that are surrounding our communication are this para-noise -  for example, internally we debate what can and cannot be said to someone else, such as at the office, or how someone has treated us, such as colleague, or how we don’t dare to say what must be said to create a better situation for all participants - such as an obvious office problem that is not within our job description.

Our communication takes place on a different level than the reality we are surrounded by, we communicate based on assumptions, or own beliefs and opinions, and we thus distort and manipulate the content so that it fits within the boundaries of respect.

The result of this is the world we have created today. We spend our lives catering to other people through deliberate manipulation and self-monitoring whereby we suppress our emotions and listen to the mind chatter (backchat) in our heads. Our communication is more concerned with the ‘wrapper’ and how everything we say is packaged instead of creating a common focus which has its root in reality, in the true sense of the word - and which relieves us from emotional manipulation of self and others.... but instead we focus on the illusion and discard what is real.

The power of our transformation from a global society that struggles in every way, and more so day by day, lies within the child-parent relationship. We need to refocus our relationships with children into physical reality,
 drop emotional baggage and ego-centric behaviours, and give ourselves permission to dismantle the binding forces of respect. The DIP is an excellent start in this direction.



The solution is self-forgiveness and self-corrective application:

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have - throughout the cycles of humanity - not realised what I do onto a child's life that I am entrusted with and whose value as life has been lost to me through my accepted and allowed programming where I cannot recognise the consequences of my behaviour in the world that is re-created day in day out.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have been a child and have memories of how I had to respect my parents without explanations  and how I have modelled my communication with the world on these memories.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have been a child and have had to conform without any input,  to what my parents demanded of me and then - once adult - I have turned around and done exactly the same to the children who came after me.



To be continued.
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